see the picture of a young lady who was highly disappointed by her lover on Valentines Day Being her Birth Day

 
Ok, in terms of problems this maybe isnt huge but it is playing on my mind a bit. i have been with my boyfreind for 2 years now...and he just doesnt treat me with the same care and attention he used to. Yesterday was my 23rd birthday....and i got nothing from him. Not a card, not a present nothing. He hadn't even planned anything special. I hid my dissapointment. He then was telling me how he felt bad, and he knew he was being greedy cus he plans on doing up his car at the cost of about £2500. he said that, things
have been slow at work so he could not afford anything for me. i let it rest, did not want to argue on an already shitty birthday. also, since it seemed he felt guilty i did not want to be the bad ass and make him feel worse. But the thing is, its not just yesterday, he gave me nothing for valentines, and last birthday was fairlyy crap, he knew i was upset then aswell,but he just keeps doing it, which is why i had alreaady prepared myself to not be upset in front of him and not expect much at all this time. He is a really nice guy and i trust him beyond words....but is he just stingy or what? I shouldnt question my relationship on such a materialistic point should i? am i just being a spoilt brat? its not like he does not have money, and even a birthday card given with some meaning would be nice. For his last birthday i saved up for something special for him and wrote a letter for him, i made the effort so it would be special for him. Does he not care enough to make the effort or what? he says he will make it up, but likely story, right?


and this was what she said

Leave that selfish bf you have. You will regret of wasting your love and your time to that kind of man. If I can get back to the times that i can run away from my partner, i will. I am 30 years old and my partner is 40 yrs old. I did not imagine I will be treated like this by a man i am living with for almost 8years. We are not married but since we have a 6yr old daughter and a 4yr old son, i have to think of my children's welfare. Even when we just started, i felt like i am unimportant and just taken for granted. I am single and educated, but still i accepted him even he is separatedfrom his first wife coz i love him. But the same problem with all of u, he doesn't care about my feelings. He doesnt care about my birthday,xmas, anniversary or even mothers day. Every special occasion, i have cardsor gift or even special surprises for him like bedroom date with candle, cake and wine and a dance, but got nothing in return. There were times i was told by him as materialistic when he knew my sentiments. frankly i don't know how to react when he said i am greed and materialistic. Its not about money or gifts, its all about making me special. Yes thats true its fatal to a relationship because i feel my love and respect for him has gone. Sometimes i am thinking, is it about me that fails or what? Is it because my First and only boyfriend before meeting him treated me as princess, treated me very special that even we had long distance relationship he sent special presents for me and took me for a date in the mountain just the two of us. Sometimes I cried because I left my 1st boyfriend for this kind of man. Yes he is telling me he loves me, but I can't feel i am special with him. He is so insensitive, thoughtless and he is not romantic. I am sensitive and passionate and romantic but sometimes i want to revenge, i am acting like i do not care as he did to me. I want to treat him the way he treated me. Do i still have to leave him? Yes we are not married but we have 2 kids.